Five rules to have her best in your relationship/marriage.

ACCOMPLISHMENT: Before you say money cannot do all things, please have enough of it first. An average woman wants a successful man. It is her nature. She was made that way. After all, it was Adam that was made from the dust and not Eve. Even though she could go too extreme in her demand at times if she is not cautioned, but you must be a man she can be proud of at all times. I am not saying you must own a private jet or a castle on the moon, but you must reasonably make it financially.  No one takes glory in poverty. An average man remains a lazy man until he makes it. She loves to take the car you bought with your hard earned money to visit her friends at any time, even when there is fuel scarcity. She doesn’t see anything wrong with it. That is her make up. She will ask you what it is if you challenge her. This does not make her greedy in quote even though some of them can openly abuse it.

GIVE HER ATTENTION: This is not negotiable. Deny her of it, and you will witness the Armageddon.Give her full attention, and then she will treat you as a diamond. She is so emotional. That is why she can cry over a tooth paste. She doesn’t want to share your presence with anybody. She hates rivalry and never tolerates competition. An average woman can not really survive on her own. Her glory is somehow hidden in her man. So she senses an intruder very fast.Even the so called wild ladies know this but may pretend to be otherwise. She loves to be listening to all the time and will never agree she talks too much at times. Try and manage it by nodding your head when she talks especially when excesses are obvious. Do not shout her down. If you do, she will be demoralized and the resultant effect may be too much for you to bear.

CELEBRATE HER. She loves to be commended on any project, especially when she returns from her hair saloon. Tell her, her hair do is out of this world if truly it is. She just loves to hear that even if it is obvious that the hairdo has a touch of an apprentice. But if it is truly bad, manage it with her in wisdom by saying, sweetheart, wow, this is beautiful but you should make some adjustment here, here, here, here and here including here. By so doing, you would have passed your full message. She loves it that way than you saying, dear, this is terrible.  

PROTECT HER. Every lion wants to be the director of its domain because uneasy lies on the head that wears the crown. The crown on the head of a king is not for fashion parade, but for bravity, courage and determination in a time of challenges. It is the duty of a man to protect his family. She must feel secured. She wants to be protected by all means, physically, emotionally, spiritually etc. You are like a king Kong to her. This is why she wants a tall man (apology to some of us that seem to be too tall). Even though, the height of a man does not guarantee her security, she still wants to go for it except if she is about three decades in age. At that age, even a dwarf can win her mind. It is quite psychological. And it must be thoroughly managed.

MIND YOUR WORDS: Words are powerful, as the Holy Bible preaches. Appropriation in the use of words matters to an average woman than to a man. Tell a woman that she is ugly, then, it can take you eternity to get in your apology. Because she believes beauty is her possession even among them that seemed to be FEARFULLY MADE. She believes it is her right to be encouraged, nurtured, pampered, and respected (which is true). Therefore, you must be mindful of your choice of words. Do you not know that there is a way an average woman feels when you tell her she is the cockroach in your cupboard and butter on your bread, even when it is clear to her that you are just deceiving her? Unfortunately, majority of them cannot manage the pressure, because they were made that way. It is a thing of the mind. Good luck.Thanks. Share with friends.

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