THAT MYSTERY CALLED SEX #opesays

Thank God it’s Friday. I hope you had a lovely week. This time on #opesays, we’ll be talking about that familiar topic, sex. So I beg you to please, lay aside all your religious convictions for a minute and hear me out. Think through everything I say and take the one you feel is beneficial and discard the ones you think useless. That said, sex remains the fire that plagues the world of man. You and I have felt it…that tingle,  that ache for someone else; call it lust if you will.
For me, when a great man says he is sexually attracted to me, I see it as an honour. Why ? Because a man is only attracted to that which is a reflection of his innermost self. That in essence ,tells me I’m a great woman. This theory holds true for every human being; you’re only attracted to a person who is a mirror of yourself. “Your body will always follow the ultimate logic of your deepest convictions .”-Ayn Rand. It can truly be no other way. Once you find yourself attracted to someone sexually, do not despise it, do not question it. You are that person and that person is you.
This is why a man who is confident in his own value, will always look for a great woman. Why ? Because she is harder to conquer, and that gives him a sense of achievement. Getting her will boost his self-esteem. For ease of reference, let’s call this the Conqueror Syndrome. For instance, I once had a discussion with a friend about the Helicopter Move.  I heard this term first from another friend’s article. The move is actually a sexual position where the man is on top and the woman is under him with her two legs spread wide apart (just like the helicopter blades).My friend had this to say about the move; “It makes me feel powerful, if I’m on top of a woman like that; especially one who was hard to get”.
In Church, I cringe when the Pastor , keeps saying “Wives submit to your husbands”. Now we all know they mean submit,  as in defer or respect. This Bible verse has been hammered on severally, with the Pastors leaving out the other meaning the Bible referred to. What is this other meaning ? Sexual submission. That was what Apostle Paul meant when he said this. It also goes further to say, “Husbands love your wives”. Does this refer only to the emotional love ? Of course not. It also means sexual love. So I ask, why don’t Christian men and Pastors hammer on the latter sentence ? That’s a topic for another day. The Conqueror Syndrome of sex is the same reason why good girls love bad boys or playboys. It gives us women a sense of achievement once we get that man that is notoriously hard to get. It shows you have conquered where others failed. With the Conqueror Syndrome , we all want to feel we got the best out there, the best person we could find.
Mind is always linked to the body, you cannot separate both. In the same way, you cannot separate sex from love. This ideal is a fraud, shun it. When you separate sexual attraction from emotional love, it is a disaster waiting to happen. This is why love brings you nothing but boredom, and sexual attraction brings you feelings of guilt and shame. Love in its purest form consists of these; 1. A sexual attraction for the person in question .2. Emotional love for the person and 3. The Conqueror Syndrome. If your love does not contain all these, it is a sham. Next time before you condemn your sexual attraction, do think about this; you will be only attracted to that which is a mirror of your innermost self. That said, have a wonderful weekend.
Peace

DISCLAIMER- You may be sexually attracted to someone, but that doesn’t mean you must always act on it .What separates man from beast is our ability to hold back on our urges.Enough said
*You can read the article about the helicopter move here >>>> Confessions Of A Lagos Pervert
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