It was a dark secret. The kind that destroys lives, devastates families and decimates faith.
Nobody shared it with
Valerie Spruill while her husband was alive. For years after his death,
she heard bits of the story. It was something about an absentee father,
something about her husband.
None of it made sense,
she said. That's not until her uncle finally told her what no one else
had: She had unknowingly married the father she never knew.
"It is devastating. It can destroy you," Spruill told CNN late Thursday by telephone. "It almost did."
Spruill, 60, of
Doylestown, Ohio, went public with her story this month, first published
in the Akron Beacon Journal, with the hopes that it would help others
facing what seem like insurmountable problems.
It's a story that has
gone viral, attracting attention as faraway as Australia and India where
the questions are always the same, she says: How could that happen?
It's a question that
Spruill said she has been grappling with since she first learned the
truth in 2004, six years after her husband Percy Spruill died.
"I don't know if he ever
knew or not. That conversation didn't come up," she said. "I think if he
did know, there is no way he could have told me."
She confirmed that her husband was indeed her father through a DNA test, hair taken from one of his brushes.
The aftermath of the
secret was devastating emotionally -- and physically, Spruill suffered
two strokes and was diagnosed with diabetes.
All of it, she believes was brought on by learning the family secret.
"Pain and stress will kill, and I had to release my stress," Spruill said. "I'm just telling the story to release my pain."
She has a deep, abiding
faith in God, who she believes has guided her through the experience --
and others that have shaped her life.
"You have to have faith," she said. "If God brought me this far, he's not going to leave me now."
Spruill met and married her husband-father in Akron and settled in Doylestown, a working class suburb of about 2,300.
It was her second
marriage. Spruill was a nice man, a good provider. He was kind to her
three children from her previous marriage.
"We had a good life," she said.
She initially struggled with anger, with hating Spruill for what happened.
But therapy taught her what happened wasn't her fault. Her faith taught her to forgive.
Initial response to her story has been mixed: "More positive than negative," she says.
In recent days, she has been in contact with a couple who found out after they were married that they were brother and sister.
They told her, she said, that her story is helping them deal with their own experience.
"They are trying to be friends now," Spruill said.
Others, though, have been less kind.
"They've said things
like 'Some secrets should stay secrets,'" she said. "I can't do anything
about what they think. I just know what I think. God is always mighty,
and he teaches you to tell the truth no matter what."
Spruill knows not everybody tells the truth. It's a lesson she learned as a child the hard way.
By all accounts, Spruill's mother got pregnant as a teenager while dating her then 15-year-old father.
She was 3-months-old
when she was sent to live with her grandmother and grandfather, who she
initially believed as she grew up was her father.
Spruill said at about
age 8 or 9, she discovered that the woman who often visited the house
was not a family friend but her mother.
But nobody, she said, talked about her father.
There's nobody left to
give her the answers about her husband-father. Her mother, Christine,
died in 1984. Her grandparents have long since passed. So, too, have a
number of Percy Spruill's relatives.
Spruill knows her mother
worked as a prostitute and even got caught up in 1980 high-profile
corruption scandal surrounding James Barbuto, a probate judge who was
convicted of intimidating investigators and gross sexual imposition for
attacking a courthouse clerk in his chambers.
"My mother showed me lots of love. All said and done, I have no regrets
The first phase of the privatization
bidding processes has come and gone. Cash in dollars must be set to exchange hands
now between the Federal government and the winners of our assets. The bank managers
must be busy now as the permutation and combination begin to thrive. There were
murmurings in the air about who won this and who won that. Some said that some
people in the country were not supposed to be among the bidders in the first
place. There were allegations of manipulation in the bidding processes. Some
quarters would never agree with you that those power plants were never under
valued and sold if they were actually valued and valued right in the first
place. Some said the process was not opened enough for transparency and
accountability. It is a free world. Everyone must be allowed to talk. That is
the evidence of democracy.
What could have been another weekend of agony
